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Comment on such frivolous things as manners … by Dezdmona

Dezdmona — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 11:42:31 +0000

In your statement:

“…those with manners have succeeded in the first step of looking beyond themselves”

I believe you have hit the perveriable “nail on the head”.

It’s a self-perpetuating problem. Many parents and “role models” don’t teach young people about manners anymore. Adults are “offended” if someone else “advises” their child how to act. Parents don’t take their children with them to nice places where they learn proper behavior because they have to have their “alone time”. Schools/Teachers are regularly abused by parents angry that their child received a “time out” or detention.

With so many people fighting NOT to teach young people manners, how CAN they learn? These young people grow up selfish and entitled until such time as the “real world” slaps them in the face and they are left in bewilderment and confusion.
They will either adapt and learn or fail.

Comment on such frivolous things as manners … by sarasustaita

sarasustaita — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 04:25:28 +0000

Perfectly stated. I really enjoyed this – thanks for the motivation to improve my manners! Love ya : )

“Don’t be smelly fruit”
-a Pastor in San Francisco at Karina’s church

Comment on The “Must-Have” Accessory for 2009: Manners (or Michelle Obama, Carla Bruni, The Queen, Cyberspace and Manners) by Kirstin

Kirstin — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:13:33 +0000

I wish I had something witty to say. Manners are of first and foremost importance. Lacking manners is like lacking a universal code of ethics.

Comment on The “Must-Have” Accessory for 2009: Manners (or Michelle Obama, Carla Bruni, The Queen, Cyberspace and Manners) by Johan

Johan — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 02:00:56 +0000

Nice post

A detailed mantra about manners can’t be a bad thing

You found good manners in London though?

Wow the states must be real bad!

In the blog it sounds like you are describing some Aspie-sensitivities.

If you tell that to NT’s I’m afraid it may be falling upon deaf ears most of the time

Comment on i really should cook more… by Mike

Mike — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 12:36:19 +0000

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Comment on i really should cook more… by lezleevictoriah

lezleevictoriah — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 01:18:25 +0000

reporting back. i did better than that crock pot recipe. i made my own recipe for chicken and rice. i hesitantly and disdainfully deboned a small boiled chicken, taking extra care to remove all fat and gristle, simmered it with a bit of sea salt, onion and celery seed, added long-grain rice and fresh broccoli, topped it off with a bit of fresh cracked pepper and let it simmer about 18 minutes. it was delicious! and, my children loved it. the best part was that i put in the broccoli so late that it boiled down to nothingness leaving a slight green tint on the rice and a nice touch of flavor but not appearing so much as a vegetable that my children would not eat it. i do think i’ve discovered a trick! as a side, i made copper pennies, slicing fresh carrots, warming them in butter and topping off with a 1/2 tsp of organic brown sugar. they were a hit with 2/3 of the dinner participants. the 5 year old just can’t make himself try a carrot. perhaps next time i should just throw them into the rice mixture and boil them down as well. :}

Comment on the technology of art… or is it the art of technology? by kirstin

kirstin — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 06:01:47 +0000

i couldn’t agree with you more. i believe you’ve hit the nail directly on the head and can site more and more examples of what isn’t art. it shouldn’t be such a pompous act. i don’t know, i think i would like to think more and comment with a greater sense of appreciation of what you’ve written.

Comment on labeling humans by lezleevictoriah

lezleevictoriah — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 23:17:17 +0000

yes paul8bee, i agree. labels can and do often get old and as such, they should be updated. that is the restriction that i was talking about that is an inherent danger in the concept of labels. upon further thought, i would posit that another is the propensity of others to only look upon the label when making judgment about a given person, place or thing. that’s where my view is different. i am calling upon people to view a label as a tool, a transitory guidepost if you will that can both be changed, expounded upon and if need be, added to others to produce a more exacting description.

thank you for your comment!

Comment on labeling humans by paul8bee

paul8bee — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 18:44:41 +0000

Labels can get old.
I used to wet my bed 50 years ago. Does that make me a bed wetter?
I once had a fight in high school, does that make me a violent offender?

What I see happening mostly is that people do not grow up mentally and emotionally. They still see things the same way they did when they were young. You just keep on thinking about your thinking and you are on the right track.

Thanks for the post.

Comment on thinking inside the box is hard! by Stunnedbutprobablyhopeful

Stunnedbutprobablyhopeful — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 17:45:22 +0000

Dear Lezleevictoriah,
Thank you for your response to me on the Cassandra site a few weeks ago. After your comment, my husband opened a book I had ordered about Asperger marriage, asked me if I had ordered it because it was something I had, and I explained gently that I thought, rather, this might be the source of his terrible anxieties and feelings of always being alone, He grew very defensive and yelled that he was not going to be saddled with “one more label!” He really wants me to see a psychiatrist again (I’ve already been thoroughly tested) because he feels my mind is making all this up and also that I probably have dissociative disorder because I can’t remember “the affairs” I’ve had in the last few years. (I haven’t even thought about having any affairs–at least with real live people). What would be the best way for me to continue with someone who rejects the notion he might be “wired” in a special way? How could he hear me best? What are the chances our marriage can continue if he never accepts any of the responsibility for our differences in world experience and can never see Asperger’s as an explanation for his suffering? Is acceptance necessary to be able to move on? Thanks you for any help you can offer.