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dreaming of a green christmas…

2009/08/08
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as august rolls around with the promise of cool breezes and the excitement of the approaching autumn, my thoughts turn instinctively to christmas or i might more properly call it, the upcoming gift exchange season. my family celebrates the traditional amercian holiday and each year we try to do something different.this year we are having a “green christmas”. we all talked about it; my husband, my 23 and 12 year old daughters, and my 5 year old son. also included is my best friend and her daughter, who is also a great friend. i was actually shocked that everyone liked the idea, but i am thrilled. i think it will put more meaning into the celebration for us as well as helping to recycle, reuse and renew; thus doing a bit to save the environment (and perhaps put a tiny dent in this consumerism run a muck) while being prudent with our funds during this global recession. what we are going to do is to give each person something that we ourselves have owned and enjoyed, bought at a vintage or recycling center, is organic and fair trade certified, or made with our own hands. it might sound horrid to some but we love the idea and the thought that is going to have to go into it. of course, santa will be bringing the young ones bright and shiny new toys but within our immediate family, the wheels are already turning as to what gift we can choose for each person. personally, i have never given gift selection as much thought as i have this year and i try to be thoughtful each year. we haven’t ran it past my oldest son and daughter-in-law and have no idea what they would think so for now, it’s just the ones of us in country. all of those living abroad or in our extended family will get new shiny things unless they choose to opt in as well. funny thing is, of all the things i’ve selected or purchased so far, i am more pleased than i have ever been with the gift and i think the receiver will be too. i am actually finding myself being able to give better quality gifts this way if that makes any sense. and guess what? i’m almost finished except for five people, three of which will recieve a new gift unless they opt to join in. we’re all so excited this year… even my 5 year old and i thought he’d never go for it. wow, kids are amazing. and the best part… it’s more personal, requires more thought and is helping the earth and eachother’s budgets at the same time. maybe i’ll just decorate in green this year or perhaps we’ll do a vintage tree. whatever we do, i have a feeling this christmas is going to be one of the best ever. ❤


i really should cook more…

2009/01/04
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womancooking

i really should cook more…so i am going to try.

i have so many excuses; time, grocery shopping… i detest grocery shopping. even with the handy site relish!relish! that does everything but combine ingredients for you, i still have trouble pulling this particular feat off. i am not quite sure why. a lack of enjoyment? the time it takes? the inability to control all the other aspects of  my life and house while taking the time it requires to prepare, cook, eat, and clean up after a meal? finicky family eaters? i will probably never know the reason. but… because the benefits of cooking in a kitchen highly outweigh the costs, i think i shall try. see there? i am already giving myself an out by including the word “try”. so ok, no, i will cook. i will create. i will feed my family healthy, tasty, and easily prepared meals. i will recondition myself to enjoy cooking and as my family gives me positive reinforcement for my wonderful meals [lol] i shall want to cook even more! voila! i just may do it this time. wait, no. i will do it this time.i  figure i should start easy. you know, the way people begin working out. hmmmm… let me think. i did get a new crock pot for my birthday. there’s a bit of history to that one.  i used to cook crock pot meals all the time and then i moved in with a roommate in between marriages and lived in the upstairs of her large 5 bedroom house. the only problem [well, it wasn’t really a problem for me] was the lack of a kitchen. she said i could freely come downstairs and use hers, but being the introvert that i am, and already having the predisposition not to cook, it was much easier just to go out. this went on for over 2 years. i did not cook at all. perhaps that is where this disastrous habit of eating out all the time came from. well that, and having a spoiled, completely picky food snob for a husband. whose, i might add, mother was one of the most incredible cooks that has probably ever existed. cook? maybe. cook and compete? never. funny, i just realized that most of the men in my family are the cooks, not the women. i wonder if i can blame it on genetics….? ok, back to reality… i need to cook more. i will cook more and i will update this blog to be accountable to someone!  in fact, i am going to google “crock pot chicken” as i have ingredients i believe,  print one out and go prepare it right now so that we will have dinner waiting tonight and i can enjoy the history channel’s special on 2012.  i’ll be back and tell you how it turned out…

i am going to make this [see below]. i should be able to pull this one off! but wait, i’m a vegetarian now, i guess i’ll just go get me some steamed veggies and let the kids eat this. next time i need to plan better i guess. or wait, i could toss some veggies in but are veggies good barbecued? that doesn’t sound good. hmmmmmmm……

Slow Cooker Barbecue Chicken

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 7 hours

Ingredients:

  • 3 to 4 pounds chicken pieces
  • 1 large onion, coarsely chopped
  • 1 bottle barbecue sauce

Preparation:

Put chicken in bottom of slow cooker or crock-pot and add onions and barbecue sauce. Cook on LOW for about 6 to 8 hours, or until chicken is tender but not falling apart.
Serves 4 to 6.


labeling humans

2008/11/30
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i have been thinking about the practice of labeling humans and turning it around and over in my mind and so i thought i’d throw down a blog about it.

first, let’s look at the word label

Label Definition

la·bel (bəl)

noun

  1. Archaic
    1. a narrow band of cloth, etc.; fillet
  2. a card, strip of paper, etc. marked and attached to an object to indicate its nature, contents, ownership, destination, etc.
  3. a descriptive word or phrase applied to a person, group, theory, etc. as a convenient generalized classification
  4. ☆ an identifying brand, as of a company producing recorded music

for the purpose of this blog, i shall be referring to the definition of label as seen in no. 3 above : a descriptive word or phrase applied to a person, group, theory, etc. as a convenient generalized classification

as previously stated, i have been thinking a lot about labels. all kinds of labels. the kind that one finds on products. the kind one uses as an instruction. and the kind that are also applied to people.

from my experience, most people do not seem to have a problem with the first two types that i mentioned. we welcome these abbreviated, yet concise, holders of information.

  • without a label, how would we know what size the sweater was? we might be able to figure it out after some experimentation and  time, but why go to all that trouble?
  • without a label (usually referred to as signs), how would we know where were going while on holiday? we might be prone to travel form place to place referring to points of geography as “that town” or “this place”; hardly an efficient way to communicate or to travel.
  • without a label, how would we know what point of the day or hour we might find ourselves enjoying? isn’t the numerical system we apply to time simply another form of labeling

point, is. just about everything we use to communicate with is some form of label, including the words you are reading right now. so, what seems to be the problem with using “labels” to  aid  in the description of a characteristic type of person? if we go by our definition that a label is a “generalized classification” then perhaps the problem people have with being “labeled” is that of non-specificity. Furthermore, one might see an avoidance of human labeling as an attempt to retain the right to change at any given point of time or will.

If this is the case, it is my opinion that one might just be taking the word [or the label] much too seriously. Don’t forget the purpose of labels – for information and guidance. Can labels be wrong? Yes, of course, but more times than not they are helpful. Helpful in allowing the human mind to form a sort of rough draft within which to expect certain behaviors, actions, etc. The word rough is very important here. All a label, when applied to a human being, implies, is that that human being shares a lot of the characteristics of a group of other human beings – which – does not necessarily mean they share all or even the same attributes varied within the defined group.

approached like this [viewing labels as a cognitive framework rather than a complete description] the concept of labeling might not seem quite so restrictive to those who tend to view it as such. in fact, if one wants to communicate the essence of their true selves as efficiently and with as much precision as possible, one might actually encourage as much labeling as possible through self-assessment, social feedback and professional opinion. in other words, the closer we are to the target at the start, the easier it should be to locate.

so, yeah, i am pro-labeler [if that word exists]. not for the purposes of lumping a bunch of people together to strip their personal differences but to have as many tools at my disposal as possible to aid in the understanding of who a person really is, which is most always much wider and variant than the label[s] suggest. to me, a label is merely a signpost steering me in the best direction to understand and communicate efficiently with another person.

danger can occur when people begin to see the individuals whose statistics, when put together, form a subset of the population, and that subset is given a name [or label] and that label is given a definition, and each unique member of the subset is defined solely by that label. this is not only morally wrong, but bad science. no statistical study is ever without it’s margin of error and/or statistical outliers.

so…. next time you observe yourself or someone else reacting to some human label  [and it is interesting that some have negative connotations simply put there by bad interpretation] … think of the real definition of a label, it’s intention, and perhaps even, how it can be utilized toward a positive end.